Wedding-day Jitters“婚礼紧张症”，随着结婚脚步的临近，伴随心理压力的增加，一组精神运动和意志的质的紊乱，包括刻板、作态、自动服从症、僵硬、模仿动作、缄默症、违拗症，自动症和冲动行为等，从而影响工作和生活。

那些个性不成熟、依赖性强、生活能力差的男女，对即将到来的婚姻生活，容易产生紧张焦虑感。心理学认为，履行婚姻生活的人必须有相当的成熟程度和责任感，需要有一定的理性思考和应付生活的能力。而那些一味依赖他人，为人处世完全听任感情诱导的人，往往留恋不被期待履行责任的恋爱期，而对进入婚姻期产生焦虑。

在精神和感情上，总有些人属于敏感型的。他们对婚姻生活可能出现的矛盾冲突提前忧虑起来，这部分人或受到父母婚姻不和阴影的影响，或是看到周围婚姻破裂的实例，或者早已耳濡目染了“婚姻是爱情的坟墓”的说法，因而产生了一种“好花不常开，好景不常在”的婚前忧虑。

这类人已习惯于自由自在地生活，他们担心一旦结婚，会丧失自己的独立性、自由度，缩小甚至封闭自己的社交圈子，因而对可能压抑他们目前多种心理欲求的婚姻，不自觉地产生一种恐惧感。

Go to a quiet place to get in touch with your feelings whenever the pressures of the pending marriage get to you.

找个安静地方放鬆情绪。

Reflect upon what you enjoy most about each other, the factors that make you think you'll be happy together and what is really important to you in life and love.

多回想高兴的事情，自己是最重要最幸福的人等。

Think back to the very moment you knew you loved and wanted to spend the rest of your life with your future spouse.

回忆相爱的重要时刻。

Look to couples who have survived and celebrated many years of marriage. They can be a good source of support and great role models.

寻求已经结婚的伙伴交流经验。

Talk with your intended about your doubts and fears. You don't have to wait until after the marriage to communicate.

跟恋人交流你的疑问和担忧。

Limit the time you spend with those who may be doing the doubting for you. Make sure your fears are really your own and not those of your friends or your parents.

与亲友共同面对。

Set aside some time before the wedding to spend a romantic evening with your partner, away from all the wedding talk and plans.

把烦扰放一边。

Consider going to a couple's counselor to talk out your doubts.

与恋人说出你的焦虑。